Step Three in Well-Meaning Advice
Divorce is a process. Like any process, it has a beginning, a middle, the end and life after that. Working with an experienced divorce professional makes all the difference in receiving guidance through the process. Research your professional divorce mediator, collaborative attorney or litigation attorney before you meet them in person.
Step Two in Well-Meaning Advice
Once you’ve decided on the process of divorce, think inventory first. In my office, we have a process written on the wall as a reminder for all divorce families.
Step One in Well-Meaning Advice
Number One: Choose the right divorce process for your specific circumstances.
What is included? What is excluded?
When filing for divorce in Connecticut, a couple seeking a peaceful, amicable divorce, and who are committed to staying out of Court, can utilize the services of a neutral attorney-mediator to file for divorce or legal separation.
For Meg and Harry, this marriage may work. They have chemistry to burn, lots of projects, goals and values in common. Happily ever after is possible.
The key values to consider are:
Separate and Divorce Amicably
Here are some important steps in ending the cycle of conflict when you divorce.
Unresolved conflict brings clients to the Divorce Process. You need to defuse the conflict first to have a divorce be supportive rather than destructive. Accepting that there are two people with very different, yet valid, perspectives is just the start. To learn how to do this, let’s look at what creates and destroys love in relationships.
1. A Divorce Mediator must be empathetic and an avid listener.
In a divorce, you'll hear the phrases "maintain a lifestyle to which your family is accustomed" and "reasonable needs." There's an inherent conflict for divorcing couples between the concepts of lifestyle and reasonable needs. The cost to meet the reasonable needs of your family may be much different than the cost of your lifestyle.
For many families, divorce is an opportunity for a financial fresh start. During the divorce process, we must address the debt and how the debt is paid. Debt really does stink. Unfortunately, most of us have more debt than we'd like. How do you get rid of debt in a divorce? In my search for answers I've come across several services that might help. Check them out if debt is bringing you down.